Confidence

Now you see, when it comes down to it confidence is the be all or end all to any pursuit you may be trying. Confidence is attractive and you either have it or you don't, the question is how do you get it because it definately doesn't come overnight. The problem is, I don't know either. As i sit here writing this i still don't understand why i can't ever pluck up the courage to do anything. And I bet your at home thinking the same thing. I watch my friends bully there girlfriends by throwing them off a bench or threatening to punch them whilst wearing a wife beater and drinking stella. As crude as these actions are, they still show a form of confidence, even if it is in a twisted way. It shows that they are that comfortable with that person that they feel they don't have to sugar coat everything they say or do. As much as this sounds like a cliché, you have got to be yourself.

Now I know i'm not really one to give advice as i am useless, as much as this may be true i'm not stupid. If you don't believe me then watch the way that your friends speak to there significant others. The relationships that last tend to consist of the two getting along like best friends, those that fail are usually when the bloke slowly goes back to himself after he's got them hooked, and they realise he is a complete dick.

Confidence is a hard thing to gain, you can spend ages building it just to get it shattered in a day. You could build it by having a 'standard', but as you will later come to realise, these never work. You could start at the bottom and work your way up but then who wants the reputation of the lad who gets with anything that moves.

There is no simple solution to a lack of confidence its something that has to grow over time. You can try having a 'standard' but in my experience, they don't really help. I truely don't know what to suggest, i spent all day wondering why i have no confidence, and came to the conclusion that there is no reason to. See thats not my problem, I know i could do it if i tried but I don't because i'm to scared. And i'm guessing its the same problem with you.

So i'll leave you with this, don't be scared, just fucking do it. It maybe easier in theory than in practice. But if you give it a go so will I.

Signing out

Your boy Wong